parenting - FamilyEducation
07/27/2008 at 10:47 AM

My children are grownups and I felt some difficulty in dealing with them now that they have their own priorities and I felt disregarded.

You have to let your children become adults. The empty nest syndrome can be hard though. I like the saying that you need to give your children roots and wings. They will come back, but have their own lives to live and they need to spread their wings. My children are grown up too and I am a grandmother. We live in different cities so I don't get to see them as much as I would like because I work too. When my children grew up I went back to college. I am now an early years practitioner and work with two year olds. One way to fill the empty nest, and you can hand them back at night and have an undisturbed nights sleep!!!! Are you working at the moment. If you are not, or are in a job which doesn't fulfill you, maybe you could go train for something else.

I suggest you talk to your children about how you feel. Chances are they don't even know you're feeling this way. Maybe you can plan to see each other on a certain day each wk for dinner, or otherwise talk on the phone more often. My children are both young yet, but I can only imagine how hard it will be to let go of them when they venture off on their own. Hang in there. There's much to look forward to (your children's weddings, the joy of being a grandmother...). Hold on to those dreams too. 8-)