I need some parental advice, that doesnt involve taking medications... (although it may be right for some, I feel it is not what we want for our child)
So, my 1st grader that is 6 yrs old, is very sensative, he doesnt just bounce back easily from being mad or having his feelings hurt. It takes him a better part of the day to get through it, especially at school.
He is also very hyper, he is loud and hands on with other kids, everything is playing to him, there is no serious side, now when I say serious side, I mean, at school there is play time and learning time, at Soccer there is pay attention to the coach and listen, and then at the end of practice for about 15 min she lets them play differnt games, freeze tag, duck duck goose, etc... When he is around other kids, once he knows them a bit, he is always the most hyper, and when we say "calm down" "stop that behavior" he listens for about 1 minute, and then he forgets it.
We used time outs and removing him from the situation when he was younger, we use taking away privlidges now, TV (Cartoons or movies), his game systems, not allowing him to have friends over when he is being punished.
We went to our first Tiger Cubs meeting tonight, and at the start, everyone is arriving, and the boys are all runing around playing, average and normal i think. Then the leader asks everyone to settle down and starts talking to us all, all the boys stand there and look at him, and appear to be listening, but my child is putting his hands on the boy next to him, talking, falling on the floor doing push ups,..... I removed him from the spot he was stanind (they were all kinda in a few different lines) and moved him to another spot, and asked him, "please pay attention, and use respect for the leader that is talking" I'm filling out paperwork, and go back to it for a minute, (standing behind him) and then, there he goes, right back to trying to talk, doing silly things like falling on the floor, and it disrupts everyone around us
What methods am I not using and need to ? My husband seems to think we should use spankings for all of these behaviors when they are at the inappropiate times. I'm just not sure if that will work, because it seems to be happening more and more, I'm worried that we're going to be spanking him all the time....
We are a mom, dad and 1 child family, we spend time with him reading each night, helping with homework 3 nights a week, we eat meals together, my husband and I dont raise our voices or argue in front of him, we play sports, and I did coach last years team. I'm saying all this, so as to give you the reader an idea of what type of inviroment he is in, I'm hoping it helps me receive some methods of Focus, Disipline, Attitude, and HELP in the advice I'm seeking
Thanks for reading, I look forward to hearing the responses :)