I'm wondering if there are any of you moms (or dads) out there going through a similar situation. My grandson's father has never really been a regular part of his life since he's been born. And, although my daughter got a child support judgment, l don't think that'll last much longer, since dad now claims to be working under the table, so nothing is on any books.
I'm especially worried about the effects that the dad's non presence is going to cause my grandson. Dad fought for visitation, but doesn't adhere to the court order, even when provisions are made to ensure that he can comply. He prefers instead to play house with the new girlfriend and HER 3 year old. He gives all kinds of excuses why he CAN'T come see the baby. First it was work, then whatever else came up at the time. However, when dad feels as though he's 'ready' to be a father to my grandson, my daughter is just supposed to say okay to whatever he wants. Dad has fooled her with this before, only to have him stop showing up for the baby time after time. Now, dad is threatening to come take the baby as per his 'visitation rights' and I don't want this to end up causing heartache for the baby. Should my daughter try to have the visitation revoked? Terminate his parental rights? We live in PA and the laws are confusing and cumbersome. Dad and my daughter were never married, so does that make a difference? If he marries and she does not, will that have any impact on the situation as it stands? He's supposed to take the baby every other weekend from 10 am Saturday to 6pm Sunday, and every other Saturday from 10am to 8pm, which he hasn't done for months. We've been keeping a journal of when he come and when he doesn't, when he keeps in contact and so on. Is there anything that can be done to ensure that my grandson does not have to pay the price for his father's lack of interest? Right now, my grandson is just shy of 16 months old, so I don't think he understands the grvaity of the situation yet. Unfortunately, he won't be too young forever. Is there anyone my daughter or I could speak to? Any input is welcome, especially from those living in the Philadelphia, PA area. Thanks.