I write this message hoping someone can help shine some light. In my 44 years, I have yet to be so challenged as I am with this issue.
My daughter is 11 years old and just started middle school last week. We have had several issues with her going back to speech delays at age three. She has been in speech therapy and occupational therapy. She was an early walker, late talker, was way behind the curve on potty training. At age 7 she was diagnosed with ADHD and we tried medications until we settled on one hat seems to work for her. She has managed to get by in school and through elementary school but not without assistance with councelers and the ARD program. We have experienced behaverial issues with her over the years. We seem to argue alot about the day to day things she should be doing.
For the last 5 years, our daughter has wanted to be a boy and I believe in her heart believes she is a boy trapped in a girls body. She wants to dress like a boy, she wants to change her name to a boys name, cut her hair. Our therapist at first suggested it was a faze and we should go along with it for a while to see if she grows out of it. This didn't happen. In fact it got much worse. She actually fooled some kids in her class into actually thinking she was a boy! She was forced to admit the truth which i think was a huge let down for her and really exposed to us how this is not something that she can easily control. We continue to fight this as a family. The issue is ripping us apart as a family and really taking away of things we should be concentrating as a family.
I want to say there is a wonderful person inside her. Are we trapping it inside by making her be a girl? Are we making it worse? Is she old enough to really make know?
Has anyone ever heard of an issue like this one.? We need help.