help - FamilyEducation
11/23/2011 at 14:37 PM

Alexander is having issues eating and sleeping (naps and night time) hes start to eat sometimes but he was eating nothing not even pizza his favorite. i make him stuff he likes and he sometimes eats and sometimes doesn't. its frustrating (cause you know he like its)

Plus now he wont nap, and he needs it cause by supper time he gets whiny and cranky, and during the night hes be coming to our bed. i know i should be taking him back to his bed but i don't always wake up (and daddy never wakes up lol) and sometimes its at like 630 and hes up by 8am so it doesn't seem worth it.

i know all parents go through this, an i know a lot of the problem could be he went from getting to do what he was when he lived with just his dad to moving in here and i have rules and i expect him to behave and eat (as well as a 4 year old can) so from going for nothing to all this he will fight it but its starting to break me down i feel like i'm never going to win this one.

Any advice???


Offer food every two and a half to three hours. Breakfast, morning snack, lunch, afternoon snack, dinner. Clear away snacks after 10 minutes, no matter how much he has eaten, clear away meals when you are finished with meals. For naps, find some soothing music and every afternoon he can have quiet time on his bed for 10 minutes while the music plays. Same music every day. If he falls asleep, wake him up after about a half an hour.

eating is getting better he has to the choice to eat it or not most of the time he does, if he doesnt he does not get a snack that night. he is learning (i always make something he like ) like last night we had steak and i know he doesnt like just steak to a made it into a fejats i know he does like he started to pick but once he ate it he liked it and he finished it. but he is doing better

Good for you for having rules! Regarding food: offer food and if he does not eat, then he will be hungry. Pretend it doesn't bother you. He'll soon learn that hunger isn't comfortable. Then refrigerate the uneaten meal and feed it to him next meal. Tell him he can choose when he eats, but that you do not waste food and will gladly reheat it for the next meal. Regarding nap: Keep the nap but rename it. I have 'Afternoon Quiet Time' and whether my son sleeps or looks at a book, it doesn't matter. Yes, he's whiny at dinner, but you are doing your job by offering the structured quiet time. Plus it gives you a small break. Our Quiet Time is one hour if he does not sleep. Best Wishes! Andrea

I'm not a fan of offering the same food until he eats it. Sometimes kids have an allergy to a food, and all they know is they don't like it. I knew one kid that refused to eat peanut butter, his mum just didn't make an issue of it. Then one day at pre-school they insisted that he try it. Anyphylactic shock and an ambulance ride, they're lucky he didn't die.