Perhaps someone can help sort this out. My family includes myself, my husband and our two boys, ages 7 & 6. We've known another family for about a year and they have one boy, also age 7. Over the last year we've known this family there have been a number of occassions where situations have been exagerated, especially when their son is accidentally hurt.
On one occassion my older son was having fun after his baseball game and chased a couple of the boys with a baseball bat. This happened on one occassion and nobody got hurt. He was just messing around. Afterward, however, my husband and I spoke to him about this behavior being unacceptable. According to this family, however, my son has done this on a number of occassions. They have mentioned it at least five times to either me or my husband. I feel that there is too much attention focused on what they feel is my son's "negative behavior". Their son is no angel either, and if he has inappropriate things in his hands I will remove them to keep the boys safe when they are playing. Is this not normal boy behavior and isn't it the parent's responsibility to teach children right from wrong?
Recently my older son picked up a gardening tool that was left outside our home in the backyard and started approaching this boy with the gardening tool. He told me later that he was not going to hit this boy, but was just trying to get him to stop calling him an idiot. Anyway, an adult saw my son pick up the tool and removed the gardening tool from his hands. Nobody was hurt. However, this seven-year old boy reported to his parents that my son was swinging the tool at him. After they left our home for dinner I received a call from the mother that she was canceling the sleep-over play date because her husband was concerned about his son's safety at our home. Their son has never been seriously hurt by my boys and so I'm insulted and hurt by their decision. I've decided to leave well-enough alone and sever the relationship, especially because this family is hyper-sensitive when it comes to their only child. Has anyone else had this happen with another family judging your parenting? Did we make the right decision by discontinuing our friendship?
Additionally, I should add that this family takes their son to the emergency room, pretty frequently, from my point of view. Recently it was because their son swallowed a penny. They seem like nervous parents, especially the father. He seems like he has a lot of fear in him. I recently found out from a mutual friend that the father was adopted. I don't know what age. I assume this is where all of his fear comes from.