I started a string earlier in the General Family discussion; however, I'm still quite confused about my predicament. My ex-wife and I have been getting worse with our relationship which in turn has had adverse effects on our son. I had an incident with my son and dishonesty (which has been getting worse over time), which has created great animosity with his mother (and him). Because of the way that incident has been handled by his mother, things have gotten worse along with my son getting worse. She dislikes discipline because she does not want to 'hurt' him; yet, in the long run he will be hurt because he is not learning right from wrong. Over time, these situations have been getting worse and even harder for me to deal with because I am not in a position to teach him. Because of the relationship, there is no consistency in my son's life. I will never have the desired influence on him that would produce a capable and righteous young man. My visitation has dwindled from a 50/50 custody to less than 24 hrs a week. There seems to be no desire from either my son nor his mother to try and spend more time together (my son and I). His step-father is willing to adopt him, should I allow him to do so and drop rights? This will alleviate all tensions between the houses and offer my son structure in his life without the fighting. He'll be in a better situation, even though he may hate me for doing it. Even though it's better for him "Does this make me bad Father?"