financial and kids
10/20/2010 at 08:04 AM

Hi everybody,
My name is Julia and I have 2 kids age 7 and 9. My kids are now starting to ask me for extra money, I always give some money for them to take to school, but now that their friends have an allowance, they want it too. At what age do you think they should start to manage their own money? Can you give some advices on that?

is it always your fault?
Maybe, maybe not. I didn't believe in the diagnosis Oppositional Defiance Disorder, until my own child was diagnosed with it.
I know that children need continuity, a schedule that is familiar, comfortable and a parent who means what they say, every single time they say it.
I have learned that kids NEED to be guided, and in our society, our generation (and each generation has it's parenting flops) we've induced a generation of me kids. Kids who think the world revolves around them, that other peoples feelings don't matter and that they have a choice, or a say, in what their life course will be.
But do they 'really' have a say in what their life course will be? Yes and no, really as children they are at mercy to what our lives are. They live under us, not equal to us. It is not up to a child to decide whether or not this is appropriate discipline for this or that behavior. Rules need to be clearly defined and then strictly followed. Along with time, love, real time, like at least once a week, one to one time doing something you both enjoy and just enjoying it together, no school stuff etc. just building the respectful relationship together with each other. Learn to respect one another...

All of this is just my guess, my thoughts and really I do not REALLY know for sure. It is just what I feel.
And keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Good luck!


What is the most important behavior that your want your son to learn?