My 3 year old won't listen
05/13/2012 at 04:38 AM

I have a 3 year old and a 1 and a half year old. My 3 year old dosn't listen to anything i say, i find my self yelling evey minute of the day. To make things worse my 1 and half year old tends to copy the 3 year old, so if i say pack up your toys and my 3 year old doesn't respond neither will my 1 and half year old. I yell and yell and we both end up in tears.

I've been working fulltime for a year now and they both stay with my parents and my inlaws, the week is split up. I tend to find they give in to everything they want, i've spoken to them and they can't seem to follow through. I don't know what to do any more, its so frustrating when no one helps me.

I don't know if i should put him in child care for a while, maybe he will pick up to what other kids do. If he see others listening and obeying orders, he might to?

Can anyone please give me advise?

One thing that is important is to be responsive to her. When she shares information or shares her feelings with you, be sure to take note of it and respond appropriately. Don't argue with her when she says something that is negative, just accept it. Try not to think of it as a power struggle. Instead, think of yourself as her resource, as well as the person with authority over her. She needs to see that you can be a strong advocate for her, and also that you have high expectations of her.


Camp Erin is a great program for grieving children. Not sure if they have a camp in your area, but do an internet search for The Moyer Foundation's Camp Erin.