I am new to this site, and I am seeking some positive responses for an issue I've had for about two years now.
To start off I am in my 30's and a working professional in the medical field. Having said that, one might wonder why I would need to post my families issues for the world to view, but I am truly at a loss on this one.
I still look like I am 18. Nice huh..?.. not when you have 3 biological children, who look nothing like me. So not only when I am out in public, am I being stared at as "a single trashy teenage mom with three kids in toe",or "the lazy babysitter, who doesn't know the first thing about taking care of children." but my main issue for my long rant is my almost 4yr old daughter.
The day she was born I think the whole country heard her. Her voice can be heard by EVERYONE! she is loud, she is social, she loves to explore..but most of all she tries to do what ever SHE wants.
At home I have no problem dealing with her behavior, but out in public, she knows that any control I have is gone straight out the window. If shes is not getting what she wants, she will scream, yell, kick, punch, run off...the list goes on.
I am tried of trying to take control, because so many people out in public have stepped in, and threatened to have CAS / CPS called.
So... it leaves me scratching my head wondering, do I let her carry on with bad behaviors, and look like I just don't care, and have CAS /CPS called.
Or do I step in take control back, and still be at risk for having CAS /CPS involved. by getting involved I would be using techniques such as; leaving and going home, giving a time out, taking away a reward ect. I have never been violent or mistreated any of my kids.
It is very frustrating. Clearly, I don't want to stand back and let her walk all over me. I'm just sick and tired of other people trying to step in and take over. I am open for ideas and suggestions...but honestly and truly tired of threats, especially from strangers who have no idea what goes on in my home or family.
Myself, kids and partner have been through a few parenting classes and groups. Although they have brought new inspiration, education and skills, myself and partner are still struggling with this issue.