Children Stealing - FamilyEducation
Children Stealing
07/29/2008 at 14:34 PM

I'm new to this board, don't know what was discussed.

At witz end to know why  or what to do with a 13 yr. old stealing. She has had this problem for several years and its just getting worse.

She started out about first grade with taking items from classmates desks like pencils and just little things. It wasn't long then it was taking items from their lunch bags althou she had hot lunches every day. It was never things that she needed, if it was one could begin to understand.\ This month she was caught after she took her mothers ATM card and took out money as she watched her mother and knew her pin number. It amounted to several hundred dollars befor they caught it.

Her father called the police and she tried to lie out of it, the policeman said "she can lie really well".

Father works long hours to make a living and mother works also. I believe she is lacking in the amount of attention that she needs. Its a long story but any ideas?

sometimes you have to give teenagers the whole idea of tough love. teenagers now days think that they are invinsible. they think that nothing can hurt them or even catch them. show her what is going to happen one day when she does get caught. i don't know about where you live but here where i'm from the police department as well as the youth dention program helps aide parents in giving their teenagers a life lession of what can happen when they do something that is against the law. a brief visit to a local dention center to see the life and to be around girls that are alot tougher than her may scare her straight, but then again it may not. just keep on her to do right and also make sure that her influences are the right ones and maybe she will get out of this phase.

If this was my grand-daughter, I would support the family going in for family counseling, and the grand-daughter going in for personal counselilng. She has been doing this for a long time, and hasn't been successfully adressed, this is going to go on even longer.
What a difficult time for you!

I agree that your granddaughter needs counceling. I also think it wld benefit her to be involved in positive after school activities, whether it be sports, youth group, The Girls Club, the YMCA, or something she enjoys doing. This behavior is unacceptable, and if she continues like this, she's going to find herself locked up. It's obvious that she's lacking a proper role model. I don't know if this is b/c both her parents work or what. But someone needs to step in and set your granddaughter back on the right path if she wishes to have a positive future. I'm sure your granddaughter isn't stupid, and she knows the trouble she can get into if she doesn't stop. But if no one is there to set a good example for her, she's going to continue down this path to destruction. Nip this problem in the bud now before it's too late!