I have a five year old son and we have been dealing with major after school power struggles. I have made so many excuses for him to justify why he is acting out...he is tired after school, he is hungry, he wants my attention...but he can't be THAT tired or hungry and he's an only child so he gets a lot of attention. Here's what happens. We come home from school and all is well for a few minutes. Then he throws himself down and howls...he wants pj's on and food and a drink, etc. I try to stay calm and I anticipate this same fight every day but I refuse to have a tray of snacks and pj's waiting for him because he's not royalty. So even if we work through these "mini" demands it'll escalate to something like "You aren't giving me rest! Can't you give me rest? You're the meanest mom ever!" And i get mad because I want him to respect me...and it's a mess. Right now we are having a battle because he wants me to help him put pj's on and I won't and he is SCREAMING "You won't help me." over and over. Now his legs don't work and he can't walk and I'm mean because I won't help him. He's been asking me and crying for 1 1/2 hours and I came to you guys for help because I'm in my room trying not to spank him...and I need help. Thanks!