My husband and I are having problems with our daughter. She doesn't listen all the time, she thinks she can do what she wants when she wants to. I am frustrated because I really don't want to spank her or take things away, yet I am finding myself doing both. We have tried time out. She even goes there herself. I believe she is very smart, but tries us all the time. We do follow through with punishments and have been for the last 5 years. She still tries. I would think it would stop by now.