My 3& 1/2 year old is having problems listening and followind directions at school. He will not be quiet before and during story time and is refusing to clean up his area just to name of few of the teachers complaints. We don't have many problems at home, but I can't help think its something we're doing at home that is causing him to defy their requests. Problem is, by the time we get to him, it has been hours, so what are we supposed to do to support them? what would be a natural consequence or logical consequence I could use at home to help them? I feel like my hands are tied. Since I'm not there when the behavior is occurring, I am unable to address it directly.
So, I've been picking him up, becoming irritated with him and the school and I'm afraid I am just confusing him when I try to discipline him with such a large time lapse in between. We have a star chart at home and he knows if he has a good listening day at school he earns a star, (after 10 stars we go to the local bakery and get a cookie, after the entire chart is full, we go to a children's movie at the theatre) however its not working as well as it did for my 5 yr. old. I feel discouraged and I don't want to break his spirit, any suggestions?