My five year old son has always been extremely outgoing, loud, energetic, sensitive, and friendly. He is not a mean child. He attended the same preschool from the time he was 2 until 5. Over the summer he attended a different day care and we had no problems. No problems in the aforementioned preschool, either. He had many friends and the teachers loved him. Literally.
He is the youngest in the family - we have twin daughters that are 11. They have always been very good, quiet kids. So his being boisterous is quite different from what we're used to. We just thought it is because he is a boy.
My son, loves to talk. He loves to meet new people and do new things, so I had no worry about his adjusting to Kindergarten. On the first day (the school won't let the parents walk in with the students) I pulled up in the car pool line and my son had the car door open before the safety patrol even had a chance. He jumped out of the car with his new Spiderman backpack and RAN into the building. Didn't look back. Didn't say Bye or anything. That afternoon he was happy to see me and said, "Man, Kindergarten is COOL!" Each day he seems excited about going, and brings home work that he did. It is clear that he does the work right and follows instructions. But. . . .
Since day three he has brought home a "bad note" in his folder just about every day. He has spoken to the assistant principal twice and gone with a guidance counselor twice. His teacher called me the other night and said that he is having trouble with anger, frustration, and waiting on his turn to speak. She said that when it's not his turn to talk, or if he's trying to talk and someone else is trying to talk, he'll put his hands over his ears and yell at them to shut up - that they are bothering him. Most of the notes are for disrupting the class. One was for Hitting - no note or elaboration on that one. It's not like my child AT ALL to hit someone else. He said he and another friend who went to the summer daycare with him were playing Pirates of the Carribean. They weren't fighting. They were playing. He said they were swordfighting. Ok. And then yesterday I got a note saying he disrespected the teacher and a student - the elaboration on that was that he cried and whined for 40 minutes because he didn't get a green freeze pop.
So, having never had problems with my child like this (except, he does whine and we have been working on this with him), I am almost at a loss. I don't understand why my son could be so disruptive. I don't know anything about this teacher except that she's older than me, has a kid in college and another in high school. She's been teaching kindergarten for 10 years so I figure she's got the experience. What's going on with my child? I absolutely will not tolerate his acting up at school. But I have this nagging FEELING that something is wrong. I can't TELL what it is, exactly, it's just a feeling.
I know my son is intelligent. And I know that he can be loud. He is naturally a loud person. But she's saying that he is SCREAMING AND YELLING.
Last week the Kindergarten classes had a family picnic. I went and observed the teacher. She babytalks to the kids. She also seemed to be on the verge of hysterics. Her voice was real high pitched and she just had a facial expression like she was about to lose it. I don't know. I do know that all of the other teachers my child has had, in preschool and daycare, not one EVER has had a problem with him.