I'm new here and hoping to get some advice. I also would like to help others in any way I can. I have 7th grader with In-Attentive ADD. She does not have severe problems and does not need to be medicated but is on a 504 plan which we may discontinue in High School if she continues to do well academcially. She is very bright and for the most part does well academically. No one knows about the ADD but her teachers and the staff. She doesn't do anything strange or out of the ordinary but is having a very hard time with the kids this year.
It seems that there is a very big clique in my daughter's 7th grade class and she isn't and really doesn't want to be a part of it because they are so mean. She does however just want to get along with everyone. From what she tells me, they are a shallow, self centered, mean spirited group of kids that enjoy picking on people. Unfortunately, they have targeted my daughter. This year she had the misfortune in some of her classes not to have a single one of her friends in the class. She talks to no one in these classes and the clique takes advantage. They make snide coments, give her cold stares, laugh and have called her ugly, barked at her and also alienated her. She is a pretty and bright girl and it just hurts me so much to see her going through this. I just don't understand it. Her 3rd quarter physed class was the worst when a whole group of nasty girls picked on her daily and sometimes threw balls at her. I finally had the teaching staff get involved and keep an eye out. Thank goodness her friends were back with her the following marking period. She does have a small group of friends and she tells me that they are the few nice people in the school. Unfortunately she got seperated a lot from them this year.
The group in my daughter's Science class has been the one of the worst. When her Science teacher allowed the children to choose groups, she was the only one left out. She was mortified. It's just heart breaking how cruel this group of kids is and it seems that they make up a large part of the 7th grade student body. I had a meeting with the guidance counselor and the Science teacher after this happened. He even agreed that it's a "tough class" and is keeping an eye out for problems. He was even able to name my daughter's two biggest tormentors immediately off of the top of his head without me even mentioning who they are. I have worked with the guidance counselor and she is going to be sure that they are not in any of her classes next year. She tells me she doesn't want to go back there next year so we are trying to figure out what to do.
I'm hoping there is someone here who can give me some advice on this type of situation. I'm so sad for my daughter and want to help her. She knows how much I care and that she has my support. I just want so much for her to feel comfortable in school. Sorry for such a long post. Thanks so much for reading it if you made it through to the end. Dee