It seems that every time I read about the "pros and cons" of open adoption all the talk is about the birth mother and the adoptive couple. What about the rest of the family involved; grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and cousins. If the adoption involves a newborn, perhaps the extended family hasn't gotten to him/her yet. But what about a child that has been in foster care and gets adopted? If it's a closed adoption and nothing is set up ahead of time with the Department of Child and Family Services, the extended family may never see the child again until they are 18. Adoptive parents seem the think they have to "rescue" the child from "that family." Just because the parents made a mistake or just cannot parent, doesn't mean the whole family is at fault. I believe that in whatever way possible a child should have contact with his/her family. That way they can know their heritage, little family stories and traditions. The child doesn't have to wonder.