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After the Videotape -- Pointers for Parents from Dr. Alvin Poussaint

Are your kids asking questions about the impeachment process? If so, check out our Impeachment Primer. You'll get the tips you need to explain this issue to your kids.

Dr. Alvin Poussaint wrote these Pointers for Parents to help parents talk to their kids about the President and lying. With impeachment in the news, kids are asking these questions again.


If you thought it was tough to talk to your kid about the Starr Report, wait 'til you see the President's videotaped testimony. Did the President lie? Should he still be President? We aren't the only ones who are asking ourselves these questions--our kids are as well.

The Clinton crisis might make you uncomfortable, but it is also an opportunity to teach your kids about right and wrong. Today, we asked psychiatrist Dr. Alvin Poussaint, professor at Harvard Medical School, for advice on handling the videotape testimony.

Pointers from Dr. Alvin Poussaint

1) What will your kids think?
Kids will make their own judgements. Universally, parents tell their children not to lie and that lying is wrong. Some kids who have been caught lying themselves will identify with the President and the fact that he's in the hot seat. He lied and was caught. Other kids, even if they have lied themselves, may still maintain that you shouldn't lie--these kids will think, "The President lied and it was wrong."

2) Share your opinion
A big issue for parents is what they should tell their kids about their own position. Some parents think the President should be impeached. Other parents think that he shouldn't be impeached. Most kids nine and up know their parents' position because they've heard mom and dad talking about it at home. It's okay for parents to tell their kids what they think should happen. But make sure to ask your kids what they think, and listen to them.

3) Discuss lying -- a lesson in morals and democracy
This is really a perfect opportunity to explain to children about our court system and democracy. One of the things that happens when you go before the grand jury is that you pledge to tell the truth. And if you don't tell the truth then it's a crime, it's perjury. A person can get into a lot of trouble, including going to jail. Children should understand the seriousness of lying particularly after pledging to tell the truth.

4) Lying is bad for your health
This is a perfect time to talk to kids about lying in general. Lying can get them into more trouble, not less trouble, even in everyday things. Often people who lie every day may feel uncomfortable and guilty about it. They know they are not telling the truth. It may make them tense and anxious. Sometimes people confess things on their own because they can't bear the pain and stress of lying. Often, telling the truth is a relief and not telling the truth can cause stress and pain in a child. Be sure to praise your child when he tells the truth when he is tempted to lie. This will reinforce the value of being honest.

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